After a marriage or relationship with a narcissist, you might find yourself thinking: “Never again”. (I know I did.) I felt so completely burned by the lies, betrayal and trauma. The thought of trusting anyone seemed like a long ways off, if at all. I said to myself: “I won’t date for a couple of …
Why It’s Hard To Work On Yourself After A Narcissistic Relationship
If there’s any time in life when you need to “do the work” on yourself, it’s after a narcissistic relationship. After all, if you’ve been through this then you know the messy shape you’re in after all of the gaslighting and other insidious manipulation. It’s an exhausting “mind-mess” that leaves you feeling like a shell …
Why It’s So Hard To Let Go Of A Narcissist
Are you struggling to let go of a narcissist? You’re not alone, and it happens to the best of us; including myself. You know on some level that the marriage or relationship is toxic. You know that it’s not really good for you. But you stay stuck because of the awesome memories of when things …
The Hidden Costs Of Divorcing A Narcissist
If you’re going through a divorce with a narcissist, you know how insidious it is. Nope, this isn’t your average divorce. (I’ve been there myself.) Of course divorce normally entails negotiating all of the details of who gets what, and there can be frustrating moments. Sometimes we disagree, and there’s strong emotions involved. After all, …
How The Trauma Bond With A Narcissist Keeps You Drained
The insidious trauma bond from a narcissist keeps you in a roadblock where you spin your wheels, and continue to get exhausted. You become drained on every level: Mentally, emotionally, physically and often financially. And getting out of it can seem impossible. This especially happens because the narcissist doesn’t want to let go; they’ll keep …
Divorcing A Narcissist After 50: Is Life Over?
Divorce often comes as a surprise; after all, we didn’t get married to just end it. And it’s an even bigger surprise when it’s with a narcissist, because the marriage to the narcissist starts out with a big “bang” but ends in big “bombs”. (Big old truth bombs, that is). The beginning of the narcissistic …
Hit The Reset Button After A Narcissistic Relationship
After a relationship with a narcissist (or when you’re in the midst of a breakup with one), your head is tirelessly spinning, and your emotions are on a crazy roller coaster ride. It’s exhausting. You get stuck in ruminating, and you feel the push-pull nightmare of the trauma bond. When will it end? Hitting the …
How To Get Over A Narcissist FASTER
“Five years”. I’ve heard this number from other women. It’s the amount of time they said it took them to feel like themselves again after a relationship with a narcissist. The amount of time it took to work through the trauma bond, ruminating, regrets, being triggered, feeling worthless, having anxiety, depression and more. Five years …
When We Stay In A Narcissistic Relationship Out Of Guilt
Stop it. Just stop it. The GUILT, I mean. When we put up with the devaluing because we think we deserve it. The truth is: NO ONE DESERVES IT. For example: There are narcissists who love to prey on married people. It’s an ego boost to go after someone who’s already committed to someone else, and then …
Is It A Big Ego Or Narcissism?
Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …