Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
After a relationship with a narcissist, we’re coming off of an emotional roller-coaster, and we’re shocked by what we just experienced. Then the self-loathing and blame begins (and it often starts during the relationship, when we’ve realized it’s not what we thought it was.) And since we made the decision to be with this person, …
Have you experienced the healing effects of animals? Animals have always been a huge part of my life. When I was born, my parents got a dog they named Gretchen, and she became my companion for many years. (My father would say that he came home carrying diapers under one arm and dog food under …
“There’s plenty of fish in the sea” they said. (And a few sharks thrown in for good measure.) If you’ve gotten out of a relationship with a narcissist; whether you were discarded or you managed to get out of your own accord (congrats), it’s time to exercise extreme caution. We have to avoid the proverbial …
We’re born knowing who we are. We’re our authentic self; fully aligned. Then something happens… Our parents or other people say things, or we see or experience things that throws us off track; including trauma. Our self-worth deteriorates. We develop fears and beliefs that stop us from pursuing the things we want in life, and …
Self-love isn’t an option, it’s a requirement; especially after a relationship with a narcissist. This is when we’re at an all-time low, after having our energy completely drained. It’s as though someone has siphoned the fuel out of our gas tank. We can feel as though we’re barely functioning. And the lesson here is: It’s …
Wait a minute… what lessons? The relationship with a narcissist is a harrowing experience. It’s like a roller coaster ride inside of a blender. It leaves us shaken AND stirred. The ups and downs are extreme; from being idealized to the point of thinking this is the greatest human being and the best relationship ever… to being at …
