If you’ve been out of a relationship with a narcissist for awhile but still feel triggered when you see or hear something about them, you’re not alone. The word “triggered” refers to that negative emotion that hits you on a deep level. It’s so deep that you feel it in your body. You might feel …
People like to use the word “victim” when it comes to narcissistic abuse. But the truth is, that mentality doesn’t serve us. In fact, it keeps us stuck right where we DON’T want to be. Realizing that healing begins with us, and turning our focus away from the narcissist is how we start to move …
The breakup with the narcissist is a nightmare that drains us to our core. It leaves us feeling disempowered, depressed and a variety of other negative emotions that feel like we’ve tried to survive inside of a blender; without knowing when the narcissist was going to press the “on” button. In the end, there’s so …
Guilt, remorse and regret are three words that play into narcissistic abuse. I know them well. I entered into my second marriage with a narcissist by leaving my then husband (who was not at all a narcissist). Let’s just say I fell off the wagon. Again. The extreme love-bombing had me convinced that this was …
Ruminating (getting stuck in our head) after a breakup with a narcissist is common, and not surprising. After all, it’s been a shock to the system. We may be: Feeling PTSD after being unexpectedly discarded by the narcissist, who is now bragging about their new life that we knew nothing about. In utter disbelief that …
Anger is huge after the breakup with a narcissist. It can also show up in the form of depression (or anger turned inward). And we have every right to be angry after the stark realization of who the person really was. It hits us hard, as we realize that we never really knew the person. …
Say it loud and clear: “The narcissist you miss, doesn’t exist”. The person you’re ruminating about, the one that you fell deeply in love with, the person you ache to be with: Never existed in the first place; they’re a non-entity. A fake person. They were only in your dreams. The narcissist made it up …
We’re born knowing who we are. We’re our authentic self; fully aligned. Then something happens… Our parents or other people say things, or we see or experience things that throws us off track; including trauma. Our self-worth deteriorates. We develop fears and beliefs that stop us from pursuing the things we want in life, and …
Love-bombing runs deep into the recesses of our soul. It’s embedded at a level we never thought possible. And so, we end up with a deep emotional attachment to the narcissist, who convinced us on every level of our being that they are our one true love. That no one else could make us feel …
If you have a friend or family member who’s been through narcissistic abuse (and you haven’t), then it’s important to understand where they’re at right now. Because unless you’ve been there, it’s like anything else; you simply cannot comprehend where they’re coming from. It’s a delicate situation of healing from trauma, and Lord knows; they …
