Divorce often comes as a surprise; after all, we didn’t get married to just end it. And it’s an even bigger surprise when it’s with a narcissist, because the marriage to the narcissist starts out with a big “bang” but ends in big “bombs”. (Big old truth bombs, that is). The beginning of the narcissistic …
How To Get Over A Narcissist FASTER
“Five years”. I’ve heard this number from other women. It’s the amount of time they said it took them to feel like themselves again after a relationship with a narcissist. The amount of time it took to work through the trauma bond, ruminating, regrets, being triggered, feeling worthless, having anxiety, depression and more. Five years …
When We Stay In A Narcissistic Relationship Out Of Guilt
Stop it. Just stop it. The GUILT, I mean. When we put up with the devaluing because we think we deserve it. The truth is: NO ONE DESERVES IT. For example: There are narcissists who love to prey on married people. It’s an ego boost to go after someone who’s already committed to someone else, and then …
Is It A Big Ego Or Narcissism?
Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …
After A Relationship With A Narcissist: What Not To Do
After a relationship with a narcissist, the effects are mind-blowing. (Not to mention what it does to your heart.) You struggle to cut the cord and let go when they continue to pretend they still love you. You’re having PTSD and feeling like you’ve been through a war, and the fallout of truth bombs are …
Heal Trauma Without Feeling Traumatized (Trauma Bonds Included.)
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
When You’re At The End Of Your Rope From A Narcissistic Relationship
Has a narcissist pushed you to the brink? Are you feeling like every drop of energy has been drained from your mind, body and soul as though you’ve been attacked by a rabid vampire? If you’re at rock bottom and wondering how you’ll ever find the energy to crawl out, you’re not alone. I remember …
How Horses Helped Me Heal From A Narcissistic Relationship
Have you experienced the healing effects of animals? Animals have always been a huge part of my life. When I was born, my parents got a dog they named Gretchen, and she became my companion for many years. (My father would say that he came home carrying diapers under one arm and dog food under …
Ending The Cat And Mouse Game Of The Narcissist
The narcissist loves to toy with us. For them, it’s a big game of keeping us down, and putting us in our place. It’s an attempt to avoid the pain within themselves, and to artificially boost their ego; which never lasts in the long run. And so the game never stops. It’s torture for us …
The Fatal Attraction Of Our Neediness And The Narcissist
I recall when a narcissist showed up in my life, and turned on the love-bombing. It instantly elevated the way I felt about myself. This led to the belief that this is how ALL relationships should be. We should all have a partner who makes us feel good about ourselves. In my mind I was …