If you’re going through a divorce with a narcissist, you know how insidious it is. Nope, this isn’t your average divorce. (I’ve been there myself.) Of course divorce normally entails negotiating all of the details of who gets what, and there can be frustrating moments. Sometimes we disagree, and there’s strong emotions involved. After all, …
The insidious trauma bond from a narcissist keeps you in a roadblock where you spin your wheels, and continue to get exhausted. You become drained on every level: Mentally, emotionally, physically and often financially. And getting out of it can seem impossible. This especially happens because the narcissist doesn’t want to let go; they’ll keep …
Breaking contact with a narcissist isn’t easy. And when you’re going through a divorce with a narcissist, you feel you need to stay in contact with them in order to get through the process. (Not to mention, letting go is hard.) After all, this is someone you loved deeply. You had hopes and dreams with …
Divorce often comes as a surprise; after all, we didn’t get married to just end it. And it’s an even bigger surprise when it’s with a narcissist, because the marriage to the narcissist starts out with a big “bang” but ends in big “bombs”. (Big old truth bombs, that is). The beginning of the narcissistic …
After a relationship with a narcissist (or when you’re in the midst of a breakup with one), your head is tirelessly spinning, and your emotions are on a crazy roller coaster ride. It’s exhausting. You get stuck in ruminating, and you feel the push-pull nightmare of the trauma bond. When will it end? Hitting the …
Narcissists are annoying, irritating and unbelievably ridiculous. They push our buttons in every way possible, and their insidious behavior makes us want to shout out to the world: “Can you believe this idiot?” Or if they’ve thoroughly pounded OUR self-worth into the ground, then WE feel like the idiot. They abuse us mentally and emotionally …
“Five years”. I’ve heard this number from other women. It’s the amount of time they said it took them to feel like themselves again after a relationship with a narcissist. The amount of time it took to work through the trauma bond, ruminating, regrets, being triggered, feeling worthless, having anxiety, depression and more. Five years …
Stop it. Just stop it. The GUILT, I mean. When we put up with the devaluing because we think we deserve it. The truth is: NO ONE DESERVES IT. For example: There are narcissists who love to prey on married people. It’s an ego boost to go after someone who’s already committed to someone else, and then …
Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
