Intuitive Life Coach – Animal Communicator. Feeling Stuck? Get Unstuck and Live on Purpose
If there’s any time in life when you need to “do the work” on yourself, it’s after a narcissistic relationship. After all, if you’ve been through this then you know the messy shape you’re in after all of the gaslighting and other insidious manipulation. It’s an exhausting “mind-mess” that leaves you feeling like a shell …
The insidious trauma bond from a narcissist keeps you in a roadblock where you spin your wheels, and continue to get exhausted. You become drained on every level: Mentally, emotionally, physically and often financially. And getting out of it can seem impossible. This especially happens because the narcissist doesn’t want to let go; they’ll keep …
“Five years”. I’ve heard this number from other women. It’s the amount of time they said it took them to feel like themselves again after a relationship with a narcissist. The amount of time it took to work through the trauma bond, ruminating, regrets, being triggered, feeling worthless, having anxiety, depression and more. Five years …
Stop it. Just stop it. The GUILT, I mean. When we put up with the devaluing because we think we deserve it. The truth is: NO ONE DESERVES IT. For example: There are narcissists who love to prey on married people. It’s an ego boost to go after someone who’s already committed to someone else, and then …
Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …
After a relationship with a narcissist, the effects are mind-blowing. (Not to mention what it does to your heart.) You struggle to cut the cord and let go when they continue to pretend they still love you. You’re having PTSD and feeling like you’ve been through a war, and the fallout of truth bombs are …
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
After a relationship with a narcissist, we’re coming off of an emotional roller-coaster, and we’re shocked by what we just experienced. Then the self-loathing and blame begins (and it often starts during the relationship, when we’ve realized it’s not what we thought it was.) And since we made the decision to be with this person, …
After a toxic relationship with a narcissist we can get stuck in the rumination cycle: Repetitive thinking and feeling. This can lead to anxiety or depression. And it’s a vicious cycle of negative emotions which makes us feel worse, and then we ruminate even more. Blaming ourselves often goes hand-in-hand with rumination, and we can feel guilt, …