Narcissists are annoying, irritating and unbelievably ridiculous. They push our buttons in every way possible, and their insidious behavior makes us want to shout out to the world: “Can you believe this idiot?” Or if they’ve thoroughly pounded OUR self-worth into the ground, then WE feel like the idiot. They abuse us mentally and emotionally …
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
After a relationship with a narcissist, we’re coming off of an emotional roller-coaster, and we’re shocked by what we just experienced. Then the self-loathing and blame begins (and it often starts during the relationship, when we’ve realized it’s not what we thought it was.) And since we made the decision to be with this person, …
Have you experienced the healing effects of animals? Animals have always been a huge part of my life. When I was born, my parents got a dog they named Gretchen, and she became my companion for many years. (My father would say that he came home carrying diapers under one arm and dog food under …
I spoke to someone who said they read 600 self-help books in their search to heal from a relationship with a narcissist. And they were still feeling like an emotional wreck. I’ve talked with other’s who’ve asked exactly which book they should read, what video they should watch, or any other effective way to heal …
After a toxic relationship with a narcissist we can get stuck in the rumination cycle: Repetitive thinking and feeling. This can lead to anxiety or depression. And it’s a vicious cycle of negative emotions which makes us feel worse, and then we ruminate even more. Blaming ourselves often goes hand-in-hand with rumination, and we can feel guilt, …
Many people that I talk to are feeling the crazy emotional roller coaster of having been in a relationship with a narcissist. I used to think that I was on a “roller coaster inside of a blender” because it was so crazy and I didn’t know when it would suddenly turn on and off… Always …
In a narcissistic relationship, the trauma bond is insidious. It’s definitely not our friend. However, the trauma bond will convince us that we need it; that we’re not going to function without it. And that my friend, couldn’t be further from the truth. It deceives us into believing that the state we’re in is love; when it’s …
People like to use the word “victim” when it comes to narcissistic abuse. But the truth is, that mentality doesn’t serve us. In fact, it keeps us stuck right where we DON’T want to be. Realizing that healing begins with us, and turning our focus away from the narcissist is how we start to move …
Guilt, remorse and regret are three words that play into narcissistic abuse. I know them well. I entered into my second marriage with a narcissist by leaving my then husband (who was not at all a narcissist). Let’s just say I fell off the wagon. Again. The extreme love-bombing had me convinced that this was …
