After a relationship with a narcissist, we’re coming off of an emotional roller-coaster, and we’re shocked by what we just experienced. Then the self-loathing and blame begins (and it often starts during the relationship, when we’ve realized it’s not what we thought it was.) And since we made the decision to be with this person, …
The #1 Way To Heal After A Narcissistic Relationship
I spoke to someone who said they read 600 self-help books in their search to heal from a relationship with a narcissist. And they were still feeling like an emotional wreck. I’ve talked with other’s who’ve asked exactly which book they should read, what video they should watch, or any other effective way to heal …
Five Tips To Ease Rumination After A Narcissistic Relationship
After a toxic relationship with a narcissist we can get stuck in the rumination cycle: Repetitive thinking and feeling. This can lead to anxiety or depression. And it’s a vicious cycle of negative emotions which makes us feel worse, and then we ruminate even more. Blaming ourselves often goes hand-in-hand with rumination, and we can feel guilt, …
From Surviving Narcissistic Abuse To Finding Serenity
Many people that I talk to are feeling the crazy emotional roller coaster of having been in a relationship with a narcissist. I used to think that I was on a “roller coaster inside of a blender” because it was so crazy and I didn’t know when it would suddenly turn on and off… Always …
Don’t Let The Trauma Bond From A Narcissist Deceive You
In a narcissistic relationship, the trauma bond is insidious. It’s definitely not our friend. However, the trauma bond will convince us that we need it; that we’re not going to function without it. And that my friend, couldn’t be further from the truth. It deceives us into believing that the state we’re in is love; when it’s …
When We’re Still Triggered From A Narcissist (Even Years Later)
If you’ve been out of a relationship with a narcissist for awhile but still feel triggered when you see or hear something about them, you’re not alone. The word “triggered” refers to that negative emotion that hits you on a deep level. It’s so deep that you feel it in your body. You might feel …
The 1st Step To Creating Healthy Boundaries After A Narcissistic Relationship
People like to use the word “victim” when it comes to narcissistic abuse. But the truth is, that mentality doesn’t serve us. In fact, it keeps us stuck right where we DON’T want to be. Realizing that healing begins with us, and turning our focus away from the narcissist is how we start to move …
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: The Four Pillars Of Empowerment
The breakup with the narcissist is a nightmare that drains us to our core. It leaves us feeling disempowered, depressed and a variety of other negative emotions that feel like we’ve tried to survive inside of a blender; without knowing when the narcissist was going to press the “on” button. In the end, there’s so …
Becoming Empowered After A Relationship With A Narcissist
After a relationship with a narcissist, It’s easy for us to point the finger at what a terrible person they are. And we’re not wrong. We may see them as the “lying, cheating scumbag” they are. And it’s all true. The problem is that if we stay in the mindset of blame, then we stay …
Narcissist And Empath: A Ticking Toxic Timebomb
Empaths are sensitive. They feel the emotions of others. (Think empathy.) They have a tendency to be people pleasers, because if they can help someone else feel better, then it helps them to feel better too. They’re often not consciously aware of this, but know that they have a deep need to help others. Unfortunately, …