Having been divorced from narcissists twice, I know how challenging it is to recover from the deep pain of it all. At first, we can wonder if the mind-blowing experience is something we will EVER get over. After all, the intense manipulation feels evil to the core, as friends and family doubt our experiences with …
As empaths, we’re sensitive people. It makes us great humanitarians. We have empathy toward others because we feel their emotions. We want to help them, because it actually helps us with the suffering that we feel, and we want relief too. It’s a quality that makes us awesome in so many ways. We come to …
There’s a universal reason for why we fail at things in life, including new years resolutions (which fail 88% of the time). I’m often talking about relationships and getting our life on track after a narcissist, and believe it or not: It’s all related. As an example, I was noticing all of the “engagement grabbing” …
If there’s any time in life when you need to “do the work” on yourself, it’s after a narcissistic relationship. After all, if you’ve been through this then you know the messy shape you’re in after all of the gaslighting and other insidious manipulation. It’s an exhausting “mind-mess” that leaves you feeling like a shell …
After a relationship with a narcissist (or when you’re in the midst of a breakup with one), your head is tirelessly spinning, and your emotions are on a crazy roller coaster ride. It’s exhausting. You get stuck in ruminating, and you feel the push-pull nightmare of the trauma bond. When will it end? Hitting the …
“Five years”. I’ve heard this number from other women. It’s the amount of time they said it took them to feel like themselves again after a relationship with a narcissist. The amount of time it took to work through the trauma bond, ruminating, regrets, being triggered, feeling worthless, having anxiety, depression and more. Five years …
Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …
After a relationship with a narcissist, the effects are mind-blowing. (Not to mention what it does to your heart.) You struggle to cut the cord and let go when they continue to pretend they still love you. You’re having PTSD and feeling like you’ve been through a war, and the fallout of truth bombs are …
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
After a relationship with a narcissist, we’re coming off of an emotional roller-coaster, and we’re shocked by what we just experienced. Then the self-loathing and blame begins (and it often starts during the relationship, when we’ve realized it’s not what we thought it was.) And since we made the decision to be with this person, …
