Divorce often comes as a surprise; after all, we didn’t get married to just end it. And it’s an even bigger surprise when it’s with a narcissist, because the marriage to the narcissist starts out with a big “bang” but ends in big “bombs”. (Big old truth bombs, that is). The beginning of the narcissistic …
Hit The Reset Button After A Narcissistic Relationship
After a relationship with a narcissist (or when you’re in the midst of a breakup with one), your head is tirelessly spinning, and your emotions are on a crazy roller coaster ride. It’s exhausting. You get stuck in ruminating, and you feel the push-pull nightmare of the trauma bond. When will it end? Hitting the …
Getting Mentally Unstuck From The Narcissist
Narcissists are annoying, irritating and unbelievably ridiculous. They push our buttons in every way possible, and their insidious behavior makes us want to shout out to the world: “Can you believe this idiot?” Or if they’ve thoroughly pounded OUR self-worth into the ground, then WE feel like the idiot. They abuse us mentally and emotionally …
How To Get Over A Narcissist FASTER
“Five years”. I’ve heard this number from other women. It’s the amount of time they said it took them to feel like themselves again after a relationship with a narcissist. The amount of time it took to work through the trauma bond, ruminating, regrets, being triggered, feeling worthless, having anxiety, depression and more. Five years …
When We Stay In A Narcissistic Relationship Out Of Guilt
Stop it. Just stop it. The GUILT, I mean. When we put up with the devaluing because we think we deserve it. The truth is: NO ONE DESERVES IT. For example: There are narcissists who love to prey on married people. It’s an ego boost to go after someone who’s already committed to someone else, and then …
Is It A Big Ego Or Narcissism?
Many people in our society don’t fully understand what narcissism really is. They believe that it’s someone who’s simply egotistical and “full of themselves”. In Greek mythology, Narcissus was attractive, and fell in love with their reflection in the water. It all seems so harmless. Or is it? If someone has a “big ego”, they …
After A Relationship With A Narcissist: What Not To Do
After a relationship with a narcissist, the effects are mind-blowing. (Not to mention what it does to your heart.) You struggle to cut the cord and let go when they continue to pretend they still love you. You’re having PTSD and feeling like you’ve been through a war, and the fallout of truth bombs are …
Heal Trauma Without Feeling Traumatized (Trauma Bonds Included.)
The thought of healing from trauma; including a trauma bond from a narcissistic relationship, may seem scary. Just thinking about dealing with it in any way makes us think: “Nope, I’m not going there — ever again”. The other day I spoke with a woman who said she couldn’t recall her entire childhood because “it was so …
The Power Of Self-Forgiveness After A Narcissistic Relationship
After a relationship with a narcissist, we’re coming off of an emotional roller-coaster, and we’re shocked by what we just experienced. Then the self-loathing and blame begins (and it often starts during the relationship, when we’ve realized it’s not what we thought it was.) And since we made the decision to be with this person, …
When You’re At The End Of Your Rope From A Narcissistic Relationship
Has a narcissist pushed you to the brink? Are you feeling like every drop of energy has been drained from your mind, body and soul as though you’ve been attacked by a rabid vampire? If you’re at rock bottom and wondering how you’ll ever find the energy to crawl out, you’re not alone. I remember …