After a relationship with a narcissist, we can easily feel stuck; ruminating about what happened, or what should have been. Our self-worth is at an all-time low, we feel exhausted and we can be dealing with a variety of grief stages including anger and depression. But after all of the gaslighting and other types of …
The breakup with the narcissist is a nightmare that drains us to our core. It leaves us feeling disempowered, depressed and a variety of other negative emotions that feel like we’ve tried to survive inside of a blender; without knowing when the narcissist was going to press the “on” button. In the end, there’s so …
Marriages to narcissists are something I’m very familiar with. I was married twice to narcissists, and the two divorces where 26 years apart. (And there were 11 years in-between that I was single.) I never would have believed that it would happen again. After all I was smart, college educated, and thought I’d done some …
Guilt, remorse and regret are three words that play into narcissistic abuse. I know them well. I entered into my second marriage with a narcissist by leaving my then husband (who was not at all a narcissist). Let’s just say I fell off the wagon. Again. The extreme love-bombing had me convinced that this was …
After a breakup with a narcissist, we can be left wondering if we’ll ever find mister (or misses) right. But then again, we can be so engrossed in ruminating about the narcissist and a relationship that can never work, that we stay stuck spinning our wheels which blocks any hope of finding the right one. …
Ruminating (getting stuck in our head) after a breakup with a narcissist is common, and not surprising. After all, it’s been a shock to the system. We may be: Feeling PTSD after being unexpectedly discarded by the narcissist, who is now bragging about their new life that we knew nothing about. In utter disbelief that …
Anger is huge after the breakup with a narcissist. It can also show up in the form of depression (or anger turned inward). And we have every right to be angry after the stark realization of who the person really was. It hits us hard, as we realize that we never really knew the person. …
“There’s plenty of fish in the sea” they said. (And a few sharks thrown in for good measure.) If you’ve gotten out of a relationship with a narcissist; whether you were discarded or you managed to get out of your own accord (congrats), it’s time to exercise extreme caution. We have to avoid the proverbial …
Say it loud and clear: “The narcissist you miss, doesn’t exist”. The person you’re ruminating about, the one that you fell deeply in love with, the person you ache to be with: Never existed in the first place; they’re a non-entity. A fake person. They were only in your dreams. The narcissist made it up …
We’re born knowing who we are. We’re our authentic self; fully aligned. Then something happens… Our parents or other people say things, or we see or experience things that throws us off track; including trauma. Our self-worth deteriorates. We develop fears and beliefs that stop us from pursuing the things we want in life, and …
