People like to use the word “victim” when it comes to narcissistic abuse.
But the truth is, that mentality doesn’t serve us. In fact, it keeps us stuck right where we DON’T want to be.
Realizing that healing begins with us, and turning our focus away from the narcissist is how we start to move forward.
And to do that, we need to begin to work on our boundaries.
Generally speaking, those of us that attract narcissists into our lives are empathic; meaning we’re sensitive to others feelings. And this is all the more reason why we need to create healthy boundaries.
This doesn’t mean we can’t have empathy for others, but if we allow ourselves to get caught up in other people’s negative emotions, it ends up taking us down a rabbit hole that throws us off track on all levels of our life.
The 1st step to creating healthy boundaries is having an awareness of where our emotions are coming from.
In other words, did you start out feeling good today but it was someone else’s emotions that shifted it in a negative way? (By the way, I like to start my day with a feeling of appreciation to set the tone for the day.)
Really start paying attention to whether the feelings you’re having are because of someone else’s exhaustion, trauma or mood swings or are they REALLY yours?
When you begin to feel yourself getting caught up in it, it’s time to take your power back and release that negative energy that you’re absorbing.
Step away mentally and emotionally and feel yourself grounded to the earth. (You can visualize it, or go out in nature and sit for awhile or take a walk, while taking in a deep breathe and imagine letting it go.)
Bring yourself back to who you really are. Connect to positive thoughts, raise your “frequency” to LOVE instead of anger, fear, anxiety, etc.
We have an amazing power within ourselves to take control of our thoughts and emotions.
It’s a matter of re-training ourselves from who we were, to who we want to become (which is already inside of us).
You can do it.
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