Many of us have a lifelong lesson that we’re learning. And perhaps that’s the whole point in life:
Are we finally getting the lesson?
Sometimes it takes awhile. And sometimes, we keep getting “hit with the cosmic two-by-four” until we finally get it.
And that was the case for me. After all, I wasn’t born yesterday.
And as I look back, I can connect the dots; that repeated lesson that I wasn’t getting.
When did it start for me?
In childhood, where it often does.
- Arguing in the household
- Parents who divorced
- Alcoholism in the family
- My dad leaving when I was 16 and I never saw him again, which can leave a person to wonder: “Am I worthy?”
This doesn’t mean we should stay in victim mode, believing we’ve had a horrible childhood that was ruined by our parents.
In fact, that’s the first message when it comes to the lesson of Self-Worth that I’m talking about: Take back your power.
Because there’s always going to be someone who will be neglectful, hurtful, or even abusive: But that’s THEIR issue and not ours.
It’s About Us And Not Them
It’s a sign of their OWN self worth issues, which don’t need to be perpetuated by us.
And when we don’t recognize our inner wounds, forgive and heal our low self-worth, we fall into repeating patterns:
- Toxic Relationships
- Weight Issues (such as deprivation and yo-yo dieting)
- Financial Problems with debt, etc.
- Abuse of alcohol or drugs
- Anxiety and Depression
- And Many More
You see, it’s like the spokes of a wheel. At the center of the wheel is our self-worth. And when we’re lacking in that area and are disempowered, the spokes of the wheel get out of balance. It manifests in whatever ways our weaknesses are. (Perhaps family patterns.)
For me, it manifested in toxic relationships, such as with narcissists who love bomb us (which artificially builds our self-worth), followed by being “emotionally beaten into the ground” which artificially builds THEIR self-worth.
I’ve also used food for emotional reasons, and I go into depth around this issue in my award-winning book: Lose the Diet – Transform your body by connecting with your soul.
It’s a vicious cycle until we recognize that WE need to heal our life.
How do we do it? The first step is really recognizing the patterns, and perhaps getting to the point that we’re fed up with the vicious cycles.
- Then we need to pay attention to even the littlest things we do to neglect ourselves, and start treating ourselves better.
- We need love ourselves: Mentally, physically and emotionally such as getting rest, staying hydrated, paying attention to what we’re eating (without deprivation), etc.
- We must create boundaries and learn to “say no” for self-preservation.
There’s much more to it, but this is certainly a start. But what other tools are there?
I’d also like to invite you to my Facebook group: Clearly Blissful for tips and support. You can also book a complimentary Clarity Call to get more clarity around where you are and where your heart and soul truly desires to go.
In the meantime, I’m sending you virtual love and blessings.